Lady Murasaki wrote:Trapper John wrote:I think there are two distinct types of smacking, one I can understand, one I can't.
I can understand a parent who does it on the spur of the moment, a wallop for something very naughty or prolonged where they've reached the end of their tether, I can't where a smacking or wallop comes after time passes to consider your reaction, like a sort of ritualised punishment.
I got my fair share of clumps and smacks from my Mum, rarely from my Dad, but it isn't surprising as she had to bring up four boys with two years separating each whilst my Dad spent much of our early years as a night duty copper.
I can honestly say I probably deserved every one of them as did my brothers, but just as honestly can say they were all spur of the moment. Sometimes my Mum would say wait until your father gets home, which did fill us with dread, even though he never once hit us after the fact.
In fact I can only remember him hitting me once, but I was 15 then and fighting with my younger brother, he hit is both once, needless to say we stopped fighting immediately and didn't fight again when he was about.
On reflection we were probably quite old when Mum hit us, around 10 ish, by then we would pretend it hurt, then go to another room or out of sight and giggle and snort to each other. We all love/ loved our Mum and Dad and none of us needed counselling because of being smacked.
A psychiatrist would have a field day with you on the couch.
Only if she was sexy