Put a ring on it

[Lady Murasaki]

Is it fair to accuse someone of cheating if you aren’t married?

Isn’t that what marriage is for? To commit to that one person?

[Gabby]

Yes of course it is ..... if you’re in a relationship you’re committed, married or not!

[Lady Murasaki]

Yes of course it is ..... if you’re in a relationship you’re committed, married or not!

Why not go all in and be married then?

[Gabby]

Yes of course it is ..... if you’re in a relationship you’re committed, married or not!

Why not go all in and be married then?

I guess you do eventually when you’re that committed.... doesn’t give you the right to cheat beforehand though!..... and even if you never marry you’re still committed to each other, so it’s wrong on all counts!

[Middens]

I doubt a serial cheater is going to stop just because they have a marriage certificate. At least when you're in a committed relationship first and you see it, you can end it without all the legal hassle.

[Gabby]

Have you been cheating LM?

[Lady Murasaki]

Yes of course it is ..... if you’re in a relationship you’re committed, married or not!

Why not go all in and be married then?

I guess you do eventually when you’re that committed.... doesn’t give you the right to cheat beforehand though!..... and even if you never marry you’re still committed to each other, so it’s wrong on all counts!

I agree it’s wrong to cheat if you’re in a relationship but very often one person is more committed than the other. There’s no confusion with marriage, you’re both saying, ‘I want to commit to only you.’

[Gabby]

Yes of course it is ..... if you’re in a relationship you’re committed, married or not!

Why not go all in and be married then?

I guess you do eventually when you’re that committed.... doesn’t give you the right to cheat beforehand though!..... and even if you never marry you’re still committed to each other, so it’s wrong on all counts!

I agree it’s wrong to cheat if you’re in a relationship but very often one person is more committed than the other. There’s no confusion with marriage, you’re both saying, ‘I want to commit to only you.’

Sometimes they lie!

[Lady Murasaki]

I doubt a serial cheater is going to stop just because they have a marriage certificate. At least when you're in a committed relationship first and you see it, you can end it without all the legal hassle.

A serial cheater? Is that like a sex addict? They have a recognised illness don’t they?

I’m not talking about them.

[Lady Murasaki]

Have you been cheating LM?

God no! I don’t see the point of committing and cheating.

[Lady Murasaki]

Yes of course it is ..... if you’re in a relationship you’re committed, married or not!

Why not go all in and be married then?

I guess you do eventually when you’re that committed.... doesn’t give you the right to cheat beforehand though!..... and even if you never marry you’re still committed to each other, so it’s wrong on all counts!

I agree it’s wrong to cheat if you’re in a relationship but very often one person is more committed than the other. There’s no confusion with marriage, you’re both saying, ‘I want to commit to only you.’

Sometimes they lie!

But aren’t they less likely to cheat if they’re married?

[Gabby]

No!... marriage doesn’t equal loyalty for some!

[Lady Murasaki]

No!... marriage doesn’t equal loyalty for some!

They probably intend to be faithful though. There’s the difference. They’ve made a statement/vow which is harder to break than no vow.

[Jon]

The default assumption is always monogamy; the marriage certificate just makes it official and binding.

[McAz]

Is it fair to accuse someone of cheating if you aren’t married?

Isn’t that what marriage is for? To commit to that one person?

We got married to simplify our tax and and other financial affairs.

A week or so ago we were on the phone to HMRC who asked as a security question when we were married - neither of us knew and Mrs Az had to hastily rifle through a drawer of papers in order to find our wedding certificate.