Vam wrote:McAz wrote:
As I explained, I don't (or more accurately, no longer) seek happiness With age comes the imperative to think beyond dualism - or in other words...
...happiness is Wu Wei (Zhuangzi).
On that, I agree. But surely it depends on how each of us would define 'happiness'? I imagine people have differing perspectives on what makes them happy.
A 'feelgood' factor is easy to achieve; it can manifest in the simplest of pursuits/circumstances and is often fleeting.
Apologies for a Facebook-esque cliché here but, to me, true happiness is to love and know beyond doubt that you're loved in return. I've had 2 awesome big loves in my life - one of whom I'm still very close to.
So in that respect I feel very blessed - and knowing that makes me happy
The pursuit of sensuality in all it's forms is perfectly good so long as it is balanced by abstinence. Indeed, even so-called enlightenment itself manifests its own sensuality. Desire can be fun, the pursuit of satiation even more so - but neither is worth the effort without abstinence and self denial.
It is successfully walking the path between oscillating dualities that brings what I believe you call happiness.
And yes, loving and being loved is a blessing not to be taken for granted.
know what I mean? 
