What does it mean to be a Man?

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What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Avon Barksdale » Mon Sep 02, 2019 1:39 pm

I was discussing this topic with a couple of Dads over the weekend, a couple of which have teenage sons.

So what does modern masculinity mean to you? Is it to be a provider, to be a protector, to be compassionate and caring, to be strong? None, some or all of these? Do men have an identity which is distinct from women or is it the same?

I found the following mini-series from the Guardian really good on the subject, especially Episode 4 where the journalist discusses the subject with some school kids. They were pretty clued up for youngsters.

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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Vam » Mon Sep 02, 2019 2:30 pm

(will check out the vid later)

Imo, not dissimilar to what it takes to be a woman really - being a provider/protector; having an aspirational desire to make his world, and the world of those he loves, the best that it can be; plus, a generous soul coupled with a need to love and laugh.

... /end Hallmark stylee clichés :gigglesnshit:
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Guest » Mon Sep 02, 2019 2:36 pm

Avon Barksdale wrote:I was discussing this topic with a couple of Dads over the weekend, a couple of which have teenage sons.

So what does modern masculinity mean to you? Is it to be a provider, to be a protector, to be compassionate and caring, to be strong? None, some or all of these? Do men have an identity which is distinct from women or is it the same?

I found the following mini-series from the Guardian really good on the subject, especially Episode 4 where the journalist discusses the subject with some school kids. They were pretty clued up for youngsters.







To be the best you can :dunno:
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Gabby » Mon Sep 02, 2019 2:44 pm

It means they have it easy compared to women! :again?:
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Avon Barksdale » Mon Sep 02, 2019 3:08 pm

Vam wrote:Imo, not dissimilar to what it takes to be a woman really - being a provider/protector; having an aspirational desire to make his world, and the world of those he loves, the best that it can be; plus, a generous soul coupled with a need to love and laugh.


Cool, so this was one of the topics that came up when I discussed it with my friends - whether we are socialised into the men / women category (so we are essentially the same but Society gets in the way) or whether it is biological ( Society is structured the way it is because we are biologically different and this is reflected in the different roles men and women have traditionally held) or a bit of both.
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Nucks » Mon Sep 02, 2019 4:33 pm

I'm not saying this is the essence of being a man, there's definitely a bit of hunterer/gatherer need with my husband. I work Saturday and Sunday mornings and always offer to pick up anything he needs for tea but he insists on popping out later on his own to get what he needs. I suppose it falls under the category of provider or protector.
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Cleopatra » Mon Sep 02, 2019 4:52 pm

Avon Barksdale wrote:I was discussing this topic with a couple of Dads over the weekend, a couple of which have teenage sons.

So what does modern masculinity mean to you? Is it to be a provider, to be a protector, to be compassionate and caring, to be strong? None, some or all of these? Do men have an identity which is distinct from women or is it the same?

I found the following mini-series from the Guardian really good on the subject, especially Episode 4 where the journalist discusses the subject with some school kids. They were pretty clued up for youngsters.



And what does it mean for society when young men, often those in inner-city, deprived areas, are denied the opportunity to be any of those things in a healthy, productive way?
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Cleopatra » Mon Sep 02, 2019 4:55 pm

Vam wrote:(will check out the vid later)

Imo, not dissimilar to what it takes to be a woman really - being a provider/protector; having an aspirational desire to make his world, and the world of those he loves, the best that it can be; plus, a generous soul coupled with a need to love and laugh.

... /end Hallmark stylee clichés :gigglesnshit:


All of the above...as long as he doesn't make me a daily packed lunch :mrgreen:
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Gabby » Mon Sep 02, 2019 5:03 pm

Cleopatra wrote:
Vam wrote:(will check out the vid later)

Imo, not dissimilar to what it takes to be a woman really - being a provider/protector; having an aspirational desire to make his world, and the world of those he loves, the best that it can be; plus, a generous soul coupled with a need to love and laugh.

... /end Hallmark stylee clichés :gigglesnshit:


All of the above...as long as he doesn't make me a daily packed lunch :mrgreen:


Why?..... I’m the one that does all packed lunches, it’d be quite nice to have one done for me now and then! :mrgreen:
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Cleopatra » Mon Sep 02, 2019 5:08 pm

Gabby wrote:
Cleopatra wrote:
Vam wrote:(will check out the vid later)

Imo, not dissimilar to what it takes to be a woman really - being a provider/protector; having an aspirational desire to make his world, and the world of those he loves, the best that it can be; plus, a generous soul coupled with a need to love and laugh.

... /end Hallmark stylee clichés :gigglesnshit:


All of the above...as long as he doesn't make me a daily packed lunch :mrgreen:


Why?..... I’m the one that does all packed lunches, it’d be quite nice to have one done for me now and then! :mrgreen:


It's weird, I know, but a woman at work was talking about how her husband made her a packed lunch every single day and, even though I know it's a lovely thing to do, it would put me right off him :mrgreen: ... I have no idea why, we all have our peculiarities.

Who knows, maybe I like a bit of toxic masculinity now and again :mrgreen: (joke)
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Gabby » Mon Sep 02, 2019 5:10 pm

Cleopatra wrote:
Gabby wrote:
Cleopatra wrote:
Vam wrote:(will check out the vid later)

Imo, not dissimilar to what it takes to be a woman really - being a provider/protector; having an aspirational desire to make his world, and the world of those he loves, the best that it can be; plus, a generous soul coupled with a need to love and laugh.

... /end Hallmark stylee clichés :gigglesnshit:


All of the above...as long as he doesn't make me a daily packed lunch :mrgreen:


Why?..... I’m the one that does all packed lunches, it’d be quite nice to have one done for me now and then! :mrgreen:


It's weird, I know, but a woman at work was talking about how her husband made her a packed lunch every single day and, even though I know it's a lovely thing to do, it would put me right off him :mrgreen: ... I have no idea why, we all have our peculiarities.

Who knows, maybe I like a bit of toxic masculinity now and again :mrgreen: (joke)


So you don’t like a man in the kitchen either! :dunno:
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Cleopatra » Mon Sep 02, 2019 5:13 pm

Gabby wrote:
Cleopatra wrote:
Gabby wrote:
Cleopatra wrote:
Vam wrote:(will check out the vid later)

Imo, not dissimilar to what it takes to be a woman really - being a provider/protector; having an aspirational desire to make his world, and the world of those he loves, the best that it can be; plus, a generous soul coupled with a need to love and laugh.

... /end Hallmark stylee clichés :gigglesnshit:


All of the above...as long as he doesn't make me a daily packed lunch :mrgreen:


Why?..... I’m the one that does all packed lunches, it’d be quite nice to have one done for me now and then! :mrgreen:


It's weird, I know, but a woman at work was talking about how her husband made her a packed lunch every single day and, even though I know it's a lovely thing to do, it would put me right off him :mrgreen: ... I have no idea why, we all have our peculiarities.

Who knows, maybe I like a bit of toxic masculinity now and again :mrgreen: (joke)


So you don’t like a man in the kitchen either! :dunno:


I do like a man who can cook, definitely. Maybe it's the phrase "packed lunch". :dunno: I'm not explaining it very well, because I don't understand it myself.
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Gabby » Mon Sep 02, 2019 5:16 pm

:laughing: ..... I guess we all have our idiosyncrasies! :mrgreen:
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Cleopatra » Mon Sep 02, 2019 5:19 pm

Gabby wrote::laughing: ..... I guess we all have our idiosyncrasies! :mrgreen:



Yeah, well, on paper, we all love a good guy, but bad boys have their uses :mrgreen:

I'm off to make my packed lunch. :laughing:
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Re: What does it mean to be a Man?

Postby Vam » Mon Sep 02, 2019 5:20 pm

Cleopatra wrote:
I do like a man who can cook, definitely. Maybe it's the phrase "packed lunch". :dunno: I'm not explaining it very well, because I don't understand it myself.


You are. And I get you ... :mrgreen:
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