Avon Barksdale wrote:NastyNickers wrote: The raw, sad grief has been replaced by this kind of wishful “what would he be” feeling. He was 21, and in the 5 years he’s been gone I bet he would have grown so much. And that’s more like a deep ache of missing out.
For sure. All that glorious talent which won't come to fruition, all that could have been which hasn't.
I guess one of the best tributes we can make to those we have lost then is to make the fullest of our potential in the life we have to live which they did not have the opportunity to do so in their own. The dead are gone and do not have that ability. We are not.
This is our philosophy since then. It’s on the back of his grave stone too. Rhys was always so positive, even when he was diagnosed with cancer. It’d be an insult to use him as a reason to be miserable. But yes. You’re ever so wise on the sly, Avon.
I wish you could have seen what he said to me when my husband died. I'll never forget that (even printed out his post 
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