Lady Murasaki wrote:Avon Barksdale wrote:Trapper John wrote:Lady Murasaki wrote:The onus is on men here. They need to own up to their own, what we women find weird, thoughts and desires, they need to open up about how unsavoury their thoughts are, even to themselves, and try to figure out why they have these desires or acknowledge how harmful it would be to act on them. Males need to talk more honestly to each other about the harmful aspect of those thoughts.
Just so as you're aware there are many instances of female paedophilia.
I've learned a lot from this thread.
Apparently, if someone I know calls me up and days "dude, I have this urge to molest my kids" a sensible course of action is to invite them round for a soothing cup of chamomile tea and a nice chat.
What would you do? Honing this fake liberal persona isn't doing much for humanity is it?
What if being able to talk to people you're close to makes a difference? Even if there's a tiniest chance it would help, Isn't that better than victims of abuse having to suffer the consequences?
I'd report it to Social Services / the Police. I hope they would explore all options, including therapeutic, away from the community at large. If it was conclusively shown they were not a threat and would not offend then they should be allowed back into the community. If not then they can stay in a secure unit until that time. I am happy for my taxes to be used in that way to include treatment options.
That, for me, is where my duties to potential paedophiles begin and end. I have no duty to listen to them. I have no duty to try and understand them. I have no duty to fix them. I have no duty to try and make themselves feel better about themselves. I will leave that to people who are properly trained and know what they are doing.
I do have a duty to my family, to protect them, and to reduce their exposure to harm to the lowest level possible. I understand that the risk of offending is small but the magnitude of harm if it did occur enormous. So, no, even if it had the possibility of even the tiniest difference in talking it out would I do so. If that person has the capacity to know it is wrong and reveal it to me they have the capacity and responsibility to approach the relevant authorities in the first place.
If people want to stay paedophile outreach programs then more power to them. I hope they are successful. Just don't expect me or my family to bear the risk of someone else's fine principles.